Christmas — a time to sleep in, overindulge and… textual content your ex?

There’s one thing in regards to the cosy nights in and the festive songs that simply makes us really feel the urge to achieve out to you realize who. After just a few glasses of mulled wine, we simply get the itch to start out typing that doomed message: “Heyyy, what’s uppppp?”

Why is it so tempting to revisit the ghost of Christmas previous? And why is it (often) such a harmful concept? We spoke to Hope Flynn, founding father of FeedMeFemale and head of content material at iPlaySafe to search out out.

Why will we really feel drawn to textual content an ex at Christmas?

Christmas is a time of yr once we all lean into our nostalgic sides. Whether or not meaning reminiscing about your childhood Christmases, or, you end up reflecting on the newer previous is one other matter.

“The nostalgia and mawkish emotions related to Christmas make us begin fascinated by our previous relationships and the sentiments of ‘togetherness’ in addition to the recollections that we as soon as shared,” Flynn says. “In the direction of the top of the yr most of us begin reflecting on the previous and perhaps areas the place we nonetheless search closure. So, in case you didn’t finish issues in one of the simplest ways with your ex, then maybe Christmas is the season for goodwill and doubtlessly a great time to achieve the closure you want.”

The opposite issue is… booze. Yep — when we now have just a few too many glasses of pink, we turn into much more sentimental — and rather less conscious of who we should always and should not be texting.

“Alcohol could make us lose our inhibitions and provides us the perceived self-worth required to ship an ex a textual content,” she says. “In case you can, my recommendation is to try to wait till the following morning to ship that textual content. In case you really feel the urge, attempt penning this in your drafts or as a message to your self after which revisit it the subsequent morning. You might have a utterly change of coronary heart the following day.”

What are the downsides of texting an ex at Christmas?

Drunk texting (and its shut cousin, Christmas texting) are sometimes errors.

For one factor, in case you are the one who ended issues, reaching out won’t be honest on the opposite particular person. “Chances are you’ll be creating a way of false hope to your ex in the event that they nonetheless have emotions for you and even creating false hope for your self when you have needs to rekindle issues romantically,” she says. “At all times take into consideration what the actual goal of getting in contact is — as typically ‘connection’ can get confused with expectation.”

A Christmas ex textual content may also go away you feeling worse in regards to the relationship than you probably did earlier than.

“Your textual content would possibly open up a can of worms and produce up previous feelings,” says Flynn. “Or, in case you or your ex are within the technique of transferring on or therapeutic from the break up, sending this textual content would possibly complicate the therapeutic course of and reopen previous wounds.”